Why We Need To Talk About Sexual Assault and Bridgerton

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WAS IT REALLY SEXUAL ASSAULT?

  • The act of, “Stealthing”, whereby when a man or person with a penis is having sex with a partner with a condom, but sneakily takes it off before they ejaculate without the knowledge or consent of their partner. The partner does not know that they have had unprotected sex.
  • When a man/penis owner will ejaculate inside of a partner when the partner has explicitly asked them not to.
  • When a woman hooks up with a guy and is happy to have vaginal sex, but he suddenly penetrates her anally and refuses to stop when she asks him to.
  • When a partner suddenly becomes violent during partner sex and rough sex becomes too rough.
  • Chemsex parties where a participant is too inebriated to fully consent
  • Any situation where somebody is drunk or high, they pass out, and they are assaulted

WHAT IS CONSENT, THOUGH? DOESN’T IT JUST RUIN THE MOMENT?

WHY IT’S A PROBLEM IN BRIDGERTON

WHAT WE CAN LEARN

NOW LET’S GET UNCOMFORTABLE- SORRY, THIS WILL HURT

NOW THE GOOD NEWS

  1. Aim for progress, not perfection. Remember that you are human and you will mess up. Give yourself grace and be willing to make amends when needed.
  2. Get consent trained! Consent can absolutely be sexy, and it actually creates an even safer and sexier container because you feel safer. Check the resources below.
  3. Get educated on the sexual response cycle, genital response, and the difference between desire, arousal, and pleasure.
  4. Make consent a part of your every day life, not just for sex. Practise asking for and setting boundaries with your loved ones.

RESOURCES FOR SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT

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Lucy Rowett

Lucy Rowett

Sex Coach for women and femmes, I write about sex, shame, pleasure, and the body. www.lucyrowett.com